Remain Silent

A note to myself.
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam (ﷺ) said,
مَنْ كَانَ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ اْلآخِرِ فَليَقُلْ خَيْرًا أَوْ لِيَصْمُت
"He who believes in Allah and the Last Day must either speak good or remain silent."(Muttafaq ‘alaih: Al-Bukhari, no. 6018; Muslim, no.47)

watercolor wreath's source: craftberry bush

Turning Two

My S is two! 

It's not until I saw an old picture of her newborn days that I realize how much she has grown up. I find that she is no longer a helpless and immobile baby, she's now a very physical and chatty toddler. And she will be a preschooler before I know it. 

Several days before she turned two, we were successful at weaning her from breastfeeding, and she can sleep on her own without being lulled, rocked, or fed with bottle milk ever since. Goodbye waking up every two hours, hello sleeping through the night! 

Our weaning process was not as hard as I first anticipated, though it was indeed hard and heart-breaking for me to see her crying for the consecutive first three days. But that was all. On the fourth day we went cold turkey, my breasts engorged and I had to pump it manually by hand in front of her. After she saw me cry out in agony while pumping my breasts, she kept telling herself that mama's breasts are in pain and she avoided to touch and no longer asked me to breastfeed her too. She's such a sweet girl. 

On another note, S has latched on language early as she can clearly call papa and mama since she was 8 months old. Now at two, she can make full sentences consisting the subject, verb, adv, adj. But, to interact with other people here in Singapore is still a problem because S only understands Bahasa Indonesia as of now, so she doesn't really respond to people who try to talk with her in English. 

I am a first-time mother who believes that babies learn different things in different paces, so I  don't necessarily feel that I should showcase the milestones my baby has reached or worry too much about things she hasn't catched yet, as long as there's no red flags. Despite her being verbal and all, I still have to struggle with potty training. It's a homework I postponed to work on now because I am still digging for more information and searching the right method that would be best for us, and more importantly, collecting more patience and energy to do this. 

The Halal Supermarket

We used to buy our weekly groceries at nearest Giant or NTUC Fairprice supermarkets, but since these past three months, we go to Halal Hub Supermarket. We l buy chicken, beef, mutton, lamb meat, ice cream, without worry ever since. We heartily support this kind of business. Where else we can take out everything from the counter without thinking whether it's halal or not? 

Amazon Prime Now

Amazon has finally arrived in Singapore with its Prime Now app launched on last July 22. Products available for order on Prime Now range from grocery items, electronics, health & beauty products, toys & games, home & kitchen tools, to sport equipments.

As a self-claimed tech savvy person, my husband is so keen on to test it out and join the hype. So after it was launched, we aggressively scrolled the app to find something we can buy. My husband decided to buy himself Klipsch earphones and Plantronics Backbeat Go 2 wireless earbuds and I wanted to get my long desired kitchen tools, a cast iron skillet! We were happy to receive the delivery on our preferred time despite the fact that we had to wait for several days until the app resumed its delivery service after it was unavailable to cope the initial massive demands. 

Pre-seasoned cast iron skillet 

Coming Soon

The long awaited and highly anticipated new season of my favorite TV shows are finally announced to be released soon. 

I have been a huge fan of Mr Robot show since I watched the first episode of its first season. Thanks to my husband who offered me to watch this show while our then newborn baby was asleep :P.  Though I didn't really understand about hacking and the coding things, I liked it so much that it's a show about coding, hacking, and how it took up on the disappointment to the society we are in today. I can't really wait for its season 3 premiere on October 2017. Here's the trailer. It's no joke. 

It's official that we will return to the park soon in 2018 as Westworld's makers announced a statement about its second season. Believe it or not but the first time I watched this show, I was punched by the thoughts that were brought into my mind. I felt as if I was reminded of the fact that we all humans are created (by our Creator) and the nature of our existence in the world, this made me think more about the yearning of the meaning of this life. Though I found that this show's a bit brutal and sore to my eyes, I will be patiently waiting for the next season. Here's it's Comic-Con trailer

After a little drama of cancellation, Timeless, a TV show about time travel and conspiracy to change the world's history, will be continued as they are working on making another season now. Hopefully it will be aired anytime in the first half of 2018. 

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S.E.A Aquarium

My daughter is a big fan of fishes, that she's first introduced from the books I read her. Even "ikan" was among her first ten words. We had a chance to visit S.E.A Aquarium in Sentosa last weekend as we're given three entrance tickets by my cousin for free since it's expiring soon on September,  she wouldn't be able to make it here as she will be having a baby at the end of this month insyaAllah. So fishes, we are coming! 

S was so amazed by the wide range of the fishes and other sea animals, she kept pointing and looking to them and couldn't stop running from one aquarium to another. Alhamdulillah, we were all happy that day! Thank you Uncle A, Aunt D, and Brother A. We hope to see you again soon with the new baby. 

Being Mother is Hard

Sometimes people ask me which is harder - being a Working Mom or a Stay-at-home Mom? Well the truth is... Just being a mother is hard. It doesn't matter if you are stuck at home the whole day facing loads and loads of laundry and dirty dishes and the never-ending dirty diapers, or if you are stuck in the office worrying whether your child is having his meals taken care of and thinking of the housework that awaits you when you get back.
When you are a stay-at-home mom, you have all these expectations to keep the house clean all the time and for you to cook delicious meals every day and keep your children busy with activities and WHAT DO YOU MEAN BY YOU LET THEM WATCH TV?? What a bad mother you are!!
And when you are a working mom, you find yourself calculating how much time you spend after work playing with the kids and how much time to spend on housework, and not to mention, THE GUILT. The best person to take care of the kids is the mother, you know. Yes you can hear all these voices, you hear them loud and clear.
But let's face it. Being a mother, regardless of whether you are working or not, already comes with a set of challenges unlike any other that you have encountered in your life. You are raising human beings who will grow up and have to live in the society. You need to ensure that not only do they survive, they have to be equipped with skills, knowledge, religious knowledge, manners, common sense, la di da di da.. Just being a mother is tough. Period.
So let us take a moment to appreciate the hard work that is motherhood and don't engage in those I-have-it-harder-than-you competitions. All of us have it tough, all of us are struggling, and that is what makes this journey of motherhood beautiful. The struggle that is for the sake of Allah will insyaAllah have its rewards. :)

Received this message from my friend T who is a fellow stay-at-home mother living in Singapore with husband and a daughter, just after I told her my insecurities being a dependent housewife and the feelings of lethargy and weariness facing motherhood (hello toilet training, breastfeed weaning, sleep training, etc). T and I have been friends since Uni days and I'm glad that through all the years of growing and changing, she's still someone who always has positive vibes that she can pass on to others, including me. 

The message above brings me to a conclusion that as has been said by so many people, "everyone has their own battle", so I'll carefully try to choose my own battle and work it up passionately. We are all struggling and juggling with what we have, so stop looking down on ourself and comparing ourself to others. So we can avoid all the negative feelings.