Time to Turn

Visit to the Dentist

S's first dentist appointment was made last July when I found out that the brown spot on her front teeth might be a kind of tooth decay. I chose to visit School Dental Centre by Health Promotion Board because it's a dental clinic for kids, so I thought the doctors and nurses should already know how to face children, especially the young ones like S who has never went to dentist before. Well, we got the slot on August, about five weeks after I made the call, which actually was a lot of time to let S know and make her figure out what dentist is. But unfortunately, when the day's come, though she said that she would be okay and would't cry, she eventually cried, almost 20 minutes at that. The young and friendly dentist tried to talk to S out, she gave her everything she had at the clinic, like stickers, toothbrush, etc. S finally stopped crying after I told her (in bahasa) that we're not going anywhere if she doesn't want to open her mouth and show her teeth to the dentist. It really worked like wonders though, she opened her mouth and the dentist asked S to join her in counting her teeth. The dentist confirmed that the brown spot on the front teeth as tooth decay, so she suggested to have it treated with filling treatment on the next visit. We made appointment for the treatment and needed to wait for another five weeks to get a time slot. This was another a lot of time to talk to S about the treatment, to make her understand that her cooperation in behaving was very much expected. My friend T suggested me to read books about dentists to S, who knows it would work out well. 

These are the books that I borrowed from the library, alhamdulillah it really worked. When we visited the dental centre for our second appointment, S was being good and very cooperative the whole time during the treatment, I know very well that having metal instruments in our mouth is very daunting for us adults, let alone for kids. But she nailed it! S's tooth decay has been treated, so no more brown spot. "You're a good girl and you're pretty again. now!" I said to her after the procedure was done. Haha. The dentist gave her a sheet of stickers too.

As someone who has tooth decay history, she needs her teeth to be checked again in another four months and in the meantime it should be brushed twice a day with toothpaste that contains enough flouride. This one is recommended by the dentist for S to use.  

Quran Skills for Moms

My Sunday mornings since the last week of July were filled with having tajwid class at Al Falah mosque which was held by MuslimParents.SG. When my friend T informed me about this course that she's planning to join, I was a bit reluctant because the mosque is located in Orchard area which is quite far from where I stay, it approximately needs about one hour travel by bus/train. But I'm happy that at that time I eventually decided to join the course regardless that distance issue, because I do really have a lot of lessons learned. I usually think that at my age, I could already be able to recite quran because we've learned it when we're still very young, but little did I know that I actually didn't read it properly, as in with proper tajwid and correct pronunciation. From this class, I found out that I am still lacking here and there with tajwid, and still have some weaknesses with makhraj. After finishing the Basic Quran Skills for Moms class, I decided to join the Intermediate class right away. In the Intermediate course we practiced the tajwid that we've learned so far by reading the last 20 surahs of quran intensively

I really love this course because we learn in a child friendly environment, I could bring S to the class where she could also learn and see how quran class is conducted, so I hope later when we are about to enroll her to quran class for her age she would already feel familiar with it. And also here we actually learn not because we have to in order to get achieve high score, like we were when we're in school,  but it's all for our own sake. For us alone so that we can start recite quran properly.

Actually, as a staying at home mother of a preschool toddler, I feel that I need to have a proper basic knowledge of quran  reading in order to be a good first madrasah for my child. So, I fully recommended this course for fellow mothers who plan to teach their children to read alquran at home.

The highlights of this course are that the participants get the very basic understanding of how to read quran, starting from how to pronounce a letter with the right makhraj, something that we usually overlook just because we thought we already do it right since we had learnt it long time ago in our childhood. I also love the idea that the teacher brought where we don't need to memorize all the letters and the tajwid rule names, but only just by looking at the marks like sukun, tanwin, and all.

I hope I could continue my quran learning journey after these courses. Still trying to find the suitable one, hopefully soon insya Allah.

The Little Things

The time of our lives flies so fast that sometimes when life's good we want to freeze the moment and enjoy it a little bit longer, and when we're going through a hardship we feel like to fast forward the time so we don't have to suffer more. Anyway; to stop, to rewind, or to fast forward won't help us wholly grow as a human, someone who can endure adversities and cherish felicities that life can give through times. Pursuing happiness and prosperity doesn't necessary mean we have to avoid pain and misery at all cost. It's kind of given that good and bad things occur in turns through out our life, because we're imperfect human after all. We could always get a lesson or two from both the good and the bad things in our life as they happened for a reason.

I remember this one day years ago when my husband  gave  me a bookmark with a quote on it, he hoped that I wouldn't be so upset about our condition at that time, where we were just starting to build our life as a family and struggling both financially and mentally to face infertility issues. It quite worked at that time because I believed that as long as we have each other's support, we're going to be able to deal with that hardship just fine. This quote somehow is still relevant to me today though. As to what I've been scared of, we apparently have to acknowledge that we now have secondary fertility. I hope I could manage to stand up right and go up this time around, as now we're still staying solid together and have our first lovely bundle of joy. 

Do enjoy the little things in life, for one day we will look back and realize that they were the big things.

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Toilet Training Pt.4 (End)

our lovely cloth diaper stash

One of the most anticipated days as a mother for me has finally come. I knew we can eventually do it, after witnessing my baby's first steps at the age of 13 months, the day where she didn't ask for breast milk at the age of 23 months, and now it's the moment I can proudly say that my girl is already properly toilet trained at the age of 33 months. Properly trained as in she already knows that her pee and poo should go to the toilet and she can't strictly pass them at any other places, so she has no more accidents by far. 

Now looking back to the time when we're still trying and trying, where there's a lot of yelling (me), crying (her), and accidents (of course), we could have made it a lot easier if only I knew that the success secret to peaceful toilet training process is only two. The caregiver's patience and their willingness to totally ditch the diapers. Once we don't have any diapers left, we have to other choices to just patiently continue training our little ones day and night. With this one no-turning back point since the very first time we start toilet training, I kinda believe that toilet training is not that hard.  

Early Reading and Numeracy Skills

I'm not really sure about whether it's beneficial or not to have early reading and numeracy skills for toddlers. But, as long as she is eager to learn by herself and is having fun doing it, then let's go. As parents, all we can do is to facilitate, and just let them lead their way. 

A Thing to Remember

One thing I learned the hard way that I want tell to my daughter is that not to drool over how other people live their lives, and to always remember that life is a constant struggle for everyone of us. We could end up feeling sad about our own limitations like how we don't have our own private car, therefore sometimes we have to walk in the rain going to bus stops or MRT stations. But one thing we have to reckon is that at least we have a little peace of mind that we don't have to deal with car insurance, COE price, parking charges, etc, which cost a loooot of money. Anyhow, there's always sunshine after the rain, keep smilin'! ;)