Ramadan is Here!

May this Ramadan be a month of blessings, a month of forgiveness and guidance to you and family.

May Allah azza wa jalla accept our fasting and our good deeds. Ameen.

The blessed month of Ramadan.

Rasullullah sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam said,

1. There is a gate in Jannah called Ar-Rayyan and those who observed fast shall enter through it. (Sahih Bukhari No. 1896)

2. The reward of Sawn is for Allah and He shall reward for it. (Sahih Muslim, No. 1079)

3. The smell of the mouth of the fasting person is better to Allah than the fragrance of a musk. (Sahih Muslim 1151)

4. The fasting person has 2 moments of joy; when he breaks his fast and when he meets his Lord. (Sahih Muslim 1151)

5. Fasting one day in the cause of Allah, removes the face the distance of 70 years from the Hellfire. (Sahih Muslim, No. 1153)

6. Fasting will intercede for the slave on Yaumul Qiyamah. (Sahih al-Targheeb, No 980)

7. Fasting is a protection and a strong fortress that keeps a person safe from the Fire. (Jami As-Sagheer 1/232)

8. Dua'a of a fasting person is answered. (Sahih Bukhari No. 5065)

9. Take to fasting for there is nothing like it. (An-Nasai No. 2222)

10. The gates of mercy is opened, the gates of Hell is closed, and the devils are chained. (Sahih Muslim No. 2361)

11. Observe fasting on sighting of the new moon and break it on sighting of it, (the new moon). But if (due to clouds) the actual position of the month is concealed from you, you should then count 30 days. (Sahih Muslim 2380)

Abdullah bin 'Amr radhiyallahu ta’ala ‘anhu, reported that The Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam said: "Convey from me, even one verse." (Sahih Bukhari)

Workout Galore

I was a gym rat around six or seven years ago, because after all activities in university life have been accomplished (except the formal graduation ceremony), I was practically became a jobless person with nothing to do in daily basis. Since the bachelor certificate has not even been issued yet, I got a little problem in submitting application for my very first job to getting myself occupied under a professional employment. 

So there were these several mornings I woke up with empty feeling, not knowing what to do, no more classes, no more crying while working on the assignments or even no deadlines. I was  just lazing in my bed the whole day and munching everything I could find in the fridge, until one day, one of my best friends called and told me about her idea taking our flabby ass to the fitness center nearby. Ha.. What a brilliant idea! 

I never dreamed of having a bikini body with toned arms and rock-hard abs anyway, but what's wrong with an effort of getting our body in shape? As a gym virgin, I thought that there's no way could be better to tackle the unknown than with a best friend!  So we gave it a try to take a tour to the gym, seeing the fitness classes, cardiac equipment, weightlifting machines, sauna, etc. Without taking much time to consider, we finally bought the one year membership pass even before take any trial sessions they have offered. We loved it at the first sight and were ready to sign in our life away, it met all of our expectations from a professional world wide fitness center chain, despite the unreasonable price; remembering that we were fresh graduates without any job applications submitted yet.

It took no less then a couple of years, that finally we really got our dream body line! I can't imagine that my BMI was just around 20.0! But, (it is always this but word after every good thing, isn't it?) That was several years ago. I can't say that I stay that way until now, not to mention in recent times, after I got married, not working, completed my master, and under recovery from laparoscopic surgery. I know I am not in the same body anymore.

I also understand that I wouldn't be able to get back my early twenties' body shape that have been trained hard in the gym, I am now running some errands to at least get better shape! Wish me luck. ;)

Pseudo Love

What will you do when you know that a friend of yours is kind of being played around by her so-called lover? 

I got very angry once I heard the poop about my friend's guy having another relationship behind her back. I actually also felt a bit pity for this girl, how could she be so blind about her boyfriend? We knew that he already dumped her several times for not-very-mainly reasons before, but for the sake of true love, she fought tooth and nail to bring him back into her arms. But what the point of keeping someone with you when he just doesn't want to be with you already? I never got involved in that kind of romance relationship until I've finally married with my husband, so I can't figure out the energy someone could ever waste to survive the pseudo love in which one doesn't even deserve the least of it? 

Sorry is the last thing I want to feel about her, but I really don't want to see her wasting her lifetime waiting for her dream comes true with someone who is never completely serious about bringing her into a marriage in the first place. I can tell that with not doubt because of so many facts she told me earlier, which are very reasonable. But who am I to judge? I never stand in her shoes so I will never understand the courage that push her to not giving up. Well, I guess I would never be able to understand this complicity caused to my friend's life, because what I can say is just that there's no such thing called true love before you got tied with a person under a permanent and exclusive (and not-just-for-fun) commitment like marriage.

Anyhow... If you were me, would you get your friend out of heart broken over pseudo love by telling her about her man's affair thing she never sees, or would you not? By the way, I think it's better for her to figure it out herself. They said love will find you if you try, right? Yeah, only if you try with the right way. 


I've moved and lived in another country right a couple of week after my wedding event last year. Since then, I never really had enough time to meet and hang out with my friends again back in town like I used to do in my bachelorette age. Even when I had the time to do so, it's not something more happening like usual. It needs long and well planning, either any of them comes to have a vacation in the city-state I'm living, or I go back hometown (usually for another particular reasons). Nevertheless, we now have these so called high technology communication tools where we can still keep in touch with people located far away from us, mobile chat applications, social media, emails, you name it. It's more than enough to converse and ask everything from people of the other part of the globe just by swinging your fingers away.

Yet, we still need real friends over the ones that don't physically appear in front of our faces, don't we? Of course, we do, I admit it. I can tell how it's miserably true when I thought I lose some of my good friends, the ones I sincerely believe in back then. It's awful how they behave just like any other acquaintances I barely meet or even as if we're just new to each other. This kind of circumstances really makes me worried and wonder, am I changing that much? (Ok well, I think I do). In point of fact, I also do realize that I've lost the other ones that do not ever like the idea of me taking a complete stranger as my spouse, which was fierce, really, I didn't know how to react to this besides trying to accept their judgments gracefully, and take the consequence anyway; that I've lost a friend.

Then, would this long distance issue affect rest of my friendships as well? I don't want to think that it's so shallow and being profane by saying probably yes, but if it was really like that, well I should know this earlier so I could learn better who my real friends are, which I don't mind having least of it since I already learn and stop expecting from others. Furthermore, I can feel that I'm no longer with our society that constantly espouses us to have as many friends as possible. I don't live in Facebook.

Yes or no?

Being Matchmaker

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I'm a bit confused to begin writing about this since I could feel that this would be sensitive for some people to talk about. Well, particularly when it actually does happen to those around you. However, I will start with a notification that my spouse and I were matched by my best friend who's turned out to be his cousin by her marriage, and this also was supported by my cousin's husband that has already been friends with my spouse's family members. Long story short, we have pretty more than enough good endorsements from both of our families and friends to getting to know each other and go further into a marriage. From my side, it seems like a miracle to realize how my best friend could see there's a potential in me and my spouse. I truly understand it took her a lot of courage and confidence in starting this process, remembering that my spouse and I were never knew each other before in our entire life, plus we're coming from a very different background and environment. I thankfully appreciate in her concern and good intention about bringing me into this whole thing.

With the same intention and sincerity, I did the same thing to one of my colleagues from the former office I worked for, not so far from the first time my own process begun. Since we've been friends for quite a good long time, she became someone I care about. She's not just another colleague, she has been my best friend for a while. Yet, I would never forget how I recklessly, without any enough prior knowledge and research, came up with the idea of introducing her to an old friend I never really share stories, but trust me, as long as I knew, I never heard anything bad about this friend, he's such a guy next door, if it's not too much. 

Ever since, it didn't take long until they adored one another and decided to be together. This actually should be able to make me feel relieved that finally I could help one of my best friends finding her happiness, but not.. yet, because there are several principal things happened between the two of them when they tried to step to a more advanced stage, (which I wouldn't write down here though). This fact really hurt my heart, to knowing that he didn't keep his promise to me about not making the girl feel disappointed or being fooled, above all, not even showing his persistence about this matter. Of course it's an opinion from my side, since the last thing I knew was that my friend kept herself waiting, expecting for a good hope to come true, afterward she never let me know anything anymore.

Having said that, I always tried asking about the progress of their process every time I thought I should keep myself informed. I thought I have the right to know as well, because it was me anyway who matched them for the first time, and my intention was not bringing them just into a cheesy love story, for God's sake. But that's not exactly what the guy felt comfortable with. I know my errands and advises might push him toward something he actually can't be decisive enough, like forever. Well then, the girl promised to tell me the progress once it's progressing, she asked me to just wait and see. I perceived it as a sign for me to just remain silent. My husband told me to draw back from this matter as well. Hence, I could only hope that this matter wouldn't put me into any trouble in the future.

But anyway, regardless to whatever this couple would plan for their future, I would really like to pray for their best, that can give them the easy best way to get there; where they can be settled into the full life of blessings and happiness, and put out themselves from that superficial relationship. As a friend from both sides, I do sincerely hope that way though, it's not that I crave for a spotlight in their wedding someday or thank you presents or else. In the end, sooner or later, I would be glad to hear the best whatever it is! Good luck ;) 

A Little Dose of Cuteness

Hello there.. OK.. Hello again. 

I've changed the template of this blog all over again. Been confused with the previous template that couldn't show the post date. It's really annoying to not be able to see any date for each of my posts, and I was like, frustratingly trying to get it solved by editing the code. Eventually I ended up neglecting the blog for a while when I've failed many times on doing it.

Well, I finally come up with this new cute and simple template. What do you think? Is it good enough? I ask the very same question to myself, plus.. Could it keep me to keen on blogging? We'll see! :)