Our Weekends

I've been questioned a lot by my family and friends lately whether we want to go back for good from SG anytime in the future. Well, I answered that question mostly with "Yes, we DO want, but we don't know when it will be". As of now, my husband enjoys his time with his company and really loves what he's doing there. We're actually still thinking about what we are going to do after we move to Indonesia. Should I go back to work? What about develop a startup? Children education wise, what kind of school should we send our daughter to? Since we haven't settled with our plans for the next 5 years yet, I should still keep considering that this country as my home, where we grow together raising our kid(s). 

Anyway, as a small country as it is, SG is surprisingly not that boring for me,  we can do different things every weekend or public holiday, going to playgrounds nearby, libraries, water parks, exhibitions, and the beach too! Where most of them are free though.


Separation Anxiety

My mother has come back to Jakarta two weeks after eid picked up by my younger brother who has a good stay with us for a week. The day after, cousins came to visit. I just realized that separation anxiety has stricken when I left S playing my cousin sister, while I have a quick wash. She frustratedly cried for ten minutes when I was in the bathroom, and then suddenly stopped after seeing me again.

I just didn't realize that it has begun long before that..

When she's 9 months old, or when she started to stand up holding to the furniture, she suddenly refused to be tucked in her crib at night. She kept waking up, standing by the railing of her crib, and crying.. asking to be carried. I nursed her to sleep again and I put her bed when she's already asleep, only to find that another hour she woke up again. This really made me tired as I've lost couple hours of my deep sleep, made me frustrated during the day. What happened to my sleep trained baby who used to sleep through the night?

Eid Mubarak 1437 H!

On the eid fitr day a week ago, we attended the eid prayer at one of Singapore's stadium. Four of us, my husband, mother, daughter, and me myself managed to arrive at the stadium thirty minutes at 8.00 am before the prayer started so we could still get the first row. Alhamdulillah..

During ramadhan, baby S always woke up during sahur time together with us, and then she went back again to sleep after fajr prayer until 8.00 - 8.30 am. So on the eid day, she's still half asleep as she hasn't got used to early morning activities, because that day we started at 6 am, bathed her first, fed her, and then got her all dressed up with the gamis and hijab that my best friend gave as a present. Love love love!

Look at this picture of baby S wearing hijab. She was still sleepy though so she didn't want to smile to the camera.


I'm so grateful that I could spend ramadhan and eid fitr this year with my mother coming here, even though we couldn't gather with all of our family in Indonesia :(. Hopefully next year would be better, we could spend the day in Indonesia, surrounded by both sides of our family. It's already my third eid fitr that I celebrated in Singapore from these last four years since I live here.

Hopefully, we still have the chance to meet Ramadhan and Eid fitr next year, aamiin!  

Think!


It would be better for me trying to be more careful in everything I say or write now. Because I don't want to hurt any beautiful hearts, don't want to provoke any peaceful state of minds, don't want to lose anyone's trusts, and don't want to destroy any good relationships, anymore.

Yeah, I'd better be.  

What I Wear Today?

Baby!

I super love our baby stroller that we got as a present from my cousin, but when I need to go out and about just by myself, using stroller is not really handy because our Combi Miracle Turn is a two-fold stroller, so it's a bit tricky for me to fold with one hand at the same time while the other hand is used to carry the baby  every time I take the bus (in Singapore's buses, prams and pushchairs should be folded). Therefore, babywearing to the rescue! I have several type of baby wearing carrier, such as wrap from Hanaroo, ring sling from Moms in Mind, and buckle/soft-structured carrier from ErgoBaby.

And here's my quick review:

Visiting Newborns

Looking back to nine months ago when I  gave birth to S, I just cant stop smiling and feeling grateful that we made the rightest decision to have the baby delivered here in Singapore, a neighbor country where we have no family and *not many* friends. It was a rather quiet and peaceful moment that we only shared with our loved and special ones, without exaggerated visitors.

I know this will sound a bit harsh for our society that usually described by a strong sense of belonging to relationships and close attachment to common traditions or concerns. I'm sorry for feeling this way though, but we, these new mothers, are very desperate to cuddle our baby, and to have a rest after the exhausting labor and delivery process as well.  Sooo.. Greeting guests and serving visitors are the least things we want to do at that time. I guess I was just lucky that I was not only having an easy deliver process, but I also didn't get many visitors when I was warded in the maternity unit because most of my family and friends live in Jakarta. Of course I did get some family friends coming in, but they were all  being understanding and aware of how this new mother feels. Most of them came in, congratulated us, and left the premise after 20-30 minutes.

Baby Update

Whoop! Baby S is now 9 months old, guys! Can't believe that my tiny pinky baby grows up amazingly. (rabid mom's entry detected) 

Three months ago when she's only 6 months old, I was so worried that she hasn't showed any signs of starting to sit by herself yet, meanwhile the baby of a friend has started learning to stand! I wondered if she's lacking activities that can strengthen her trunk and other muscles. But then, it didn't take long to finally see her trying to sit by herself when she's 7 months old.. All of sudden, because we didn't give her more stimulation or new activities though. Good job baby, you nailed it!

Afterward, we were still surprised that she began to crawl everywhere once she managed to sit by herself. Well, she didn't stop there. A couple of days after crawling, she began to stand, everytime we carried her, she attempted to climb up our face, and when we put her in cot, she stood up holding the railing. And now, she's cruising already. Good job (again), baby!  

The Same Little Prize

So so sooo happy that we could finally see each other again, talk and talk and talk like it's just another lunch, another day, even though actually, it's almost five years since the last time we met! Thanks for visiting me and my baby, dear! And thanks for the thoughtful presents, we love it sooo much! I'm so happy too that we still think of each other after all these years :)



Look!

Who is just coming back? Back again? Again.. And again. Well, okay. I still find it hard to steal a little bit of time to write as I promised to myself. There's a moment when I was feeling happy and inspired, I wanted to write. There was a moment when I was all gloomy then I wanted to write too. All things that happened, all about my baby, all my thoughts.. I really want to pour them here like no one would give a damn to whatever it is, but my biggest problem is to find the time to do so. I am all consumed from one morning to another morning by the household chores, looking after my baby, and researching about what to expect and what to do with her developments. That day I researched about activities that would stimulate the strength of her feet, on the other day I surveyed about training cups for infants, and now these days I am still browsing recipes here and there to plan her weekly menu. 

We're Back!

Hello! We've came back from our two weeks trip to Jakarta. Still cant believe that two weeks passed by so quickly, that we are home again now. Although it's a short trip, alhamdulillah everything went well and we happily spent every minute of our time there with both side of our family and some close friends.  :)

I couldn't thank my husband enough for giving me more time to stay in my mother's house, and my in-laws as well for the understanding, so both my husband and I could have our own personal moments to accompany our parents. I think I should celebrate this achievement that we didn't fight at all during the trip regarding planned agenda and time slots (like we usually did :p), despite some minor arguments.

After all the good times back in Jakarta, we eventually should go back to Singapore. I feel so devastated that I would be separated with my mother again and I think half our my heart was left behind when I left her house :(. I am not really in a good of health as I caught a cold several days before we departed so I dont think I could write much here now.  I will later write about the flight, things we brought back in, and some family events, but before I need to get myself recovered first,  unpack some luggages, and clean the house --it's so messy here! Above of all, Baby S is all healthy and happy during and after the trip, that's the highlight that I am cherished for right now. See ya!

baby S during her angkot ride! :))

Upcoming Trip

We'll be flying to Jakarta this Saturday insyaaAllah! This is gonna be the first time ever for Baby S to go out of this country she was born in leaving for her original home country; Indonesia.

I am so excited to go home and see my mother, but I am a little bit scared too because now we have a baby with us, who is still unable to sit in her own so that she needs to be held most of the time on the trip. Not that I refuse to hold her though, but as far as I'm concerned, baby S is not so into it, and she prefers to be laid on a spacious area where she can freely kick her retless legs.

But I think this wont be a real problem, I hold her during 2 hours tafseer class though, so I know that as long as she can suck her thumbs, she wouldn't mind lying on my lap. So I think I just need to let her put her thumbs in her mouth as long as she wants.

In addition to that, she's no where near to be able to talk yet now, so she'll cry every time she's trying to communicate with us. I know it's pretty normal, but my biggest concern is that when you're on a low cost budget flight, the least thing you want to get is screaming and crying baby (and other passengers' annoyed stares. What am I supposed to do when she feels bored and uncomfortable? Nurse her, rock her, talk to her, gently pat her back, what else?

Another concern is about her personality. Baby S is an easy and happy baby, as we dont need to provide sophisticated toys full of stimulations to entertain her, she can contentedly play only with her burp cloth. She generously gives me her sweetest smile in return every time  I smile to her, but this doesnt always happen with her father, sometimes she smiles back to him, sometimes she doesnt. Well till now, she has not met many people yet because I rarely brought her out to meet friends. And that makes me a bit hesitant, would she still be a smiling face when we are in Indonesia, where our family and friends are going to meet her? Hopefully!

Since last week, I've said to her several times a day that we will be going to Indonesia for two weeks, and on that trip, she will be expected to be nice and happy as she always is. I cant really say that it's a kind of hypnowords, but I hope it would work this time like it did when I was still pregnant with her. We'll see!


Labor & Delivery (part 2)

Previously on hello! I've written my experience several days before the delivery, now I'm going to continue with the D-day!

*switching to Bahasa setting mode*


28 Agustus 2015

03.30 pm
Sepulang dari klinik, mules-mules kontraksi mulai bikin meringis dan flek-flek makin banyak karena abis cek dalam, kayaknya emang cek dalam itu lumayan bikin ngebuka jalan lahir juga yaa. Emak gue udah makin yaqin kalau akan segera lahir karena katanya fundus rahim gue udah turun banget. Suami gue langsung ngecek ulang kelengkapan barang - barang yang udah disiapkan di dalam hospital bag serta dokumen yang diperlukan untuk admission nanti malam. Sedangkan gue kembali lagi ke kegiatan ngepel sambil jongkok bolak balik dari ujung ke ujung, sampe jadi kinclong banget tuh lantai rumah kayaknya.. Ini gue lakukan semata - mata karena gue pengen lahirnya normal aja, dan nggak pake  diinduksi kalau bisa, hiks.

07.30 pm
Sehabis sholat maghrib, kami makan malam bertiga dengan nasi briyani kambing beli di As-Salam depan masjid Kassim. Gue beneran habis satu bungkus sendiri demi persiapan energi untuk proses melahirkan yang akan gue hadapi sebentar lagi.

09.00 pm
Setelah isya semua orang udah masuk kamar untuk istirahat sebentar, supaya bisa bangun entar malam jam 12 untuk berangkat ke rumah sakit. Perut bawah makin sakit tiap kontraksi datang, tapi masih bisa ditahan sih.. Buktinya gue pulesss sampe tau-tau udah lewat jam setengah satu malam.

Labor & Delivery

It's only 5 months since I gave birth to Baby S, but it seems like that my memory of the delivery process started to fade away. Honestly, I already forgot how the labor pain was like. Yeah I know childbirth is the worst pain that women have ever experienced, but I just cant recall how painful it was.

Mumpung masih bisa diingat-ingat, mendingan buru - buru gue tulis deh sekarang. Posting kali ini gue mau pake bahasa sehari-hari aja, karena kayaknya bakal panjang banget dan gue lagi males banget mikir pakai bahasa inggris, baru nulis sekalimat, eh bayi bangun, gak selesai - selesai yang ada! hihihi. Yok, kita mulai!

Social Media Detox

Have you ever really thought about how digital life and social media have been a place we visit the most? Have you ever noticed how we become so attached to our gadgets, spending most of our time looking at the screen? Have you ever realized how we are very keen to our smartphone that we just couldnt bear missing out any update because of  not checking it yet for quite some time? If the answers were mostly no then it shows that we dont know how gadgets and social media have been an important part of our daily life.

I didnt admit it at the first time those questions cross my mind, because I know what I was doing with my gadget and social media. Some of my defending reasons are:
(1) I live outside my home country distanced from my family and friends, hence I need social media(s) to keep myself updated with what's going on there with them while I am away.
(2) I have to keep my mother (who doesn't into social media) posted about my daughter's well being several times a day and because I couldn't be able not to talk with her for a day in my entire life anyway, therefore communication by chat messages and video calls is inevitable.
(3) I am a first time mom living with my husband and we take care of the baby on our own. We face new things every day when our baby is growing up. Sometimes we dont have any idea what should we do or what's the best for her in a certain circumstance, so that browsing the internet to the rescue! BabyCentre, theurbanmama.com, and mommiesdaily forum are some of my ultimate resources about newborn care and parenting.

Pretty understable, right? But then there's this one day while I was nursing my baby, she stared at me with that deep look into my eyes when I was still glued to the phone screen, so I had to admit that I've come too far with this, so I need to stop. Why would I bring my phone near my baby on the first place, anyway? When I already know that It's harmfull for her? Addicted, that's it, I just couldnt resist. I feel sick about it and I really need to stop. So I decide to start a digital detox,  or social media detox to be specific, as soon as tomorrow.

Some of what I have done so far are I've unfollowed several accounts from my Instagram to make it less interesting or not interesting at all in order to prevent myself checking the app. I've probihited myself to open Path these three days, and I feel okay, not a biggie at all! Anyway, I dont have Facebook app installed in my phone though, so I just need to restrain myself signing in from browser. We have some unread baby care books here at home, I guess I 'll take my time to read them one by one instead of googling here and there (then end up being unnecessarily agigated and worried). I am not going to uninstall anything including Whats App, but I will just try to reduce having long chats unless it's really important. So far I only made chat with my mother, brothers, and husband. Will see if I could continue this for three weeks or more.

In the meantime, I probably still make some entries in this blog, but I promise to myself that I will only do it during my baby's naps. Wish me luck! ;)


Cloth Diaper Story

Previously I wrote about important things that we prepared for our newborn baby, now I'm going to share our experience with cloth diapers.

The first thing we need to know is that there's a lot of types for cloth diapers. From flat diaper to ribbon diaper, prefold, all-in-one (AIO), all-in-two (AI2) / pocket diaper, fitted diaper, diaper cover, etc. Google it to get more information because it has been widely talked about by so many people. Being the first-time mother who has decided to cloth diaper my first born, I didn't have any experience with all of those types, so after all the surveys I did, I was gonna try every bit of them to figure out which one would fit my baby and of course, us, the parents.

During BabyS's first three days in the hospital, the nurses put disposable diapers on her, and I thought it would be good for that moment because no one had the time to wash the cloth diapers while I was still recovering from the delivery process. But once we came home and the disposable diaper we brought from the hospital was finally out of stock, we started to use the cloth diaper supply we've prepared.

Newborn Essentials

I'm gonna share a list of baby stuffs that  we prepared before the arrival of our bundle of joy. With a zero knowledge about these stuffs, I did a lot of reseaches and surveys during my pregnancy.  At that time, I read mommies' blogs and motherhood forums to gather so many information which surprised me, how could these tiny humans need so many things for their first days of life? But by time to time, I learned that you dont need to have all those things, because some can be just optional and additional. So when I finally came up with a list, it's already the most essential ones according to me and our chosen parenting styles.

As because, we already know for sure-- everything is incredibly expensive in Singapore, I didnt ever plan to buy things for the baby here as long as we still could get them in Jakarta (which we visited 3 times during my pregnancy, each at 4th, 5th, and 6th month).  So we always spared a time going to baby shops during our visits in Jakarta. But there were some stuffs we got in Singapore too, mostly bulky things like baby gym, bath tub, etc.

Since babies  grow up very fast in their first year, we aimed to prepare things that will be needed for her year one altogether.

Hey!

I am seriously having problem with writing blog posts here because I am too lazy to open my computer, so until now I am still writing from browser in my handphone, you know how inconvenience it is, right? That is why I often lose my mood to write blog. But in the other hand, my husband is the one who is very excited about me blogging again. I guess maybe he thinks I just need some other things to do beside, well, looking after the baby, things that can be done without leaving her.

I know that nobody really reads this blog again, after I change the address (twice!) and after the long time hiatus. But I'll try to write anyway. Not only to share with the others, but also (and primarily) to keep up my memories of moments that happen in life so later I could read it again.

But still, it would be good if this blog can help others who read, so hopefully it could come up with some informative stuffs here. Welcome!