Singapore Air Show 2018

After years living in Singapore, we finally went to Singapore Airshow 2018 on Saturday 10th February. We couldn't make it to those previous years for some reasons, but I think it's actually good that we  could visit it this year, because my daughter S is big enough to join us and already has interest and curiosity for vehicles and transportation such as motorcycles, airplane, helicopters, army tanks, etc. We arrived at the event venue very early around 9 in the morning, there were not so many visitors arrived yet so it's very convenient as it's not too crowded. We took a lot of time walking around the static aircraft displays where S was enthusiasticly running on the taxi way.

We then visited the exhibition hall and then to RSAF (Republic of Singapore Air Force) pavilion where my husband got a chance to hop on the flight simulators before we gathered outside  with other visitors to enjoy the aerobatic flying displays at 11:30 pm performed by RSAF, RTAF (Royal Thai Air Force), TNI-AU (Tentara Nasional Indonesia - Angkatan Udara) Jupiter, USAF (United States Air Force), and RMAF (Royal Malaysian Air Force) for approximately 45 minutes.

When the aerial display was done we stopped at the rest area nearby to have our packed homemade  lunch before we headed back home. A very nice day spent for the whole family. Looking forward to seeing the next airshow event in 2020! Hehe

Two Memoirs

Despite being in the middle of never ending cleaning frenzy, playing all day with my toddler, cooking, and feeding her, I was finally able to force myself finish two books that I wanted to read for a while, where both are memoirs incidentally. The first one is Hillbilly Elegy, a book written by JD Vance that I grabbed from my younger brother's study desk at our mother's house that he left before he flew back to UK last year. Before I got a chance to read it, I thought it would be some kind of heavy book with politics and socio-economics stuffs that explained why American people trust Trump, but surprisingly I was wrong. It's a flowing story of a family from Appalachia that —though I couldn't relate because I didn't experience the same circumstances— has taught me a lot about tough love in raising children and one's personal responsibility to change for the better. I'm glad I have the chance to read this book earlier.

This is my most favourite lines quoting Vance's Mamaw (grandmother):
Life was a struggle, though the odds were a bit longer for people like them, that fact didn't excuse failure. Never be like those fucking losers who think the deck is stacked against them, you can do anything you want to.

Another thing that I learnt after reading this book is that this thing called Adverse childhood experiences (ACE), stressful or traumatic events, including abuse, neglect, and household dysfunction. ACEs are strongly related to having contribution to long term health, social, and behavioral consequences throughout a person’s lifespan, starting in adolescence and continuing into adulthood (Felitti et al., 1998). Some of the most common ACES usually had faced these following events of feelings —as written in the book— including:
  • being sworn at, insulted, or humiliated by parents
  • being pushed, grabbed, or having something thrown at you
  • feeling that your family didn't support each other
  • having parents who were separated or divorced
  • living with an alcoholic or a drug user
  • living with someone who was depressed or attempted suicide
  • watching a loved one be physically abused

I checked with my husband whether he had ever faced any of the points above, but he said no. It's the same with me fortunately. Even though my parents were not a romantic couple, I never saw them fighting and yelling in front of their children. Thankfully, drugs, alcohol, and physical abuse were never happened in both of our childhoods. Having known that, it becomes our concern and biggest homework to provide the same (or even better) environment for our kid(s) for them to grow up healthy physically and mentally.

The second book I've read last month is Battle Hym of the Tiger Mother written by Amy Chua, who was JD Vance's professor while he was in Yale Law School. I've tried to read this book together with some other books including Bringing Up Bebe during my pregnancy time. But because of some reasons I didn't get the chance to finish this one. So it was only right to give it a try again, and I was a bit disappointed to the fact that I didn't read this sooner. Reading this book is surely a must for a new clueless mother like me.  

This is one of my favourite parts from this book:

... Western parents worry a lot about their children's self-esteem. But as a parent, one of the worst things you can do for your child's self-esteem is to let them give up. On the flip side, there's nothing better for building confidence than learning you can do something you thought you couldn't.
There are all these new books out there portraying Asian mothers as scheming, callous, overdriven people indifferent to their kids' true interests. For their part, many Chinese secretly believe that they care more about their children and are willing to sacrifice much more for them than Westerners, who seem perfectly content to let their children turn out badly. I think it's a misunderstanding on both sides. All decent parents want to do what's best for their children. The Chinese just have a totallyu different idea of how to do that.
Western parents try to respect their children's individuality, encouraging them to pursue their true passions, supporting their choices, and providing reinforcement and a nurturing environment. By contrast, the Chinese believe that the best way to protect their children is by preparing them for the future, letting them see what they're capable of, and arming them with skills, work habits, and inner confidence that no one can ever take away. 

Well, I am not going to say what kind of parenting style — Western or Chinese— I am about to apply to raise our child. But as my husband said, we need to be open to all kind of methods and try to take the good and leave the bad. 

Felitti et al., 1998 - V.J. Felitti, R.F. Anda, D. Nordenberg, D.F. Williamson, A.M. Spitz, V. Edwards, M.P. Koss, J.S. Marks Relationship of childhood abuse and household dysfunction to many of the leading causes of death in adults American Journal of Preventive Medicine, 14 (1998), pp. 245-258